- "I don't really look to other mothers for validation on how I'm doing as a parent. I look to my children and my husband. If they are generally happy, relaxed, comfortable and engaged, I feel pretty good about how I'm doing....
If I see signs of frustration or stress or uneasiness in my family, there are alarm bells going off inside me telling me I need to be kinder, pay extra close attention, have more ideas, and offer more options." ~~Rippy Dusseldorp
Pam Laricchia wrote a post on teens about how unschooling parents partner and support their teens instead of set up an authoritarian-based relationship and assume that teens are troublesome, rebellious and need to be controlled. She also talks about how her role as a parent has changed and shifted as her children have grown older. Here is a quote from her post: "Instead of seeing themselves as directing their teens with an attitude of 'I always know better,' unschooling parents see themselves as supporting their child along the road that the teen is choosing. Supporting them means sharing our experiences, knowledge, and thoughts, but not directing their path." If you would like to read more of the article, please go to this link:
- "Don't focus on the goal being the right answer. What's important for learning is the journey, a journey of exploring and experiencing choices. There really isn't *A* right answer since today's right choice may not be right next week. We're always growing and changing. Focus on supporting kids in making choices and that each choice is another step in understanding themselves and the world better." ~~Joyce Fetteroll on Radical Unschooling Information facebook thread 6/2013
This wonderful speech ("Leaps of Faith") by Dagny Kream at the 2008 Northeast Unschooling Conference not only provides insight on how it feels to be an unschooled teen that is fully trusted by her parents, but it makes one think and is inspiring as well:
One of Kelly Lovejoy's 2011 Life Is Good Conference Recordings was about tweens and teens and the cocooning stage. Go to the "Unschooling Presentations/Talks/Recordings" page for more information on what the talk was about and how to order it.
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Faber & Mazlish
"Slowing Down to the Speed of Life" by Richard Carlson and Joseph Bailey
"Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, and it's all Small Stuff" by Richard Carlson
Here is a link to some of Richard Carlson's books and audios that are available through the Maine library lending system (MINERVA):
"The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
Take a online quiz to see what kinds of things make you feel loved:
"Playful Parenting" by Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D.
Excellent Articles to read for any parent!
- "If your child is more important than your vision of your child, life becomes easier." - Sandra Dodd
(There may be other programs, but this is one someone told me about. Thank you Gretchen L! ) http://www.nuance.com/dragon/index.htm
- Here is one page that I like very much. It was the first one I ever read: http://a-word.bangordailynews.com/2014/03/09/home/let-it-go/
"There's A Boy In Here" by Judy Barron and Sean Barron
(This book is highly recommended by Sarah T. for anyone living with autism. Thank you Sarah!)
"Secrets of a Buccaneer Scholar" by James Marcus Bach - This book is about how he left school because it was stifling him and his way of learning and how he continues to learn and be successful ever since. He puts a positive spin on his ADD diagnosis. He writes about how he DOES learn and how he controls how he does so to make it work for him.
"Temple Grandin: how the girl who loved cows embraced autism and changed the world" by Sy Montgomery
Temple Grandin - Claire Danes stars as Temple Grandin in a HBO special
There are more Temple Grandin books available through the library that I haven't read yet. One book which was written by her mom is "A thorn in my pocket: Temple Grandin's Mother Tells The Family Story" Another book is "Rescued by a Cow and a Squeeze" by Mary Carpenter.
Unschooling and Autism: http://sandradodd.com/special/autism
Parenting A Spirited Child by Danielle Conger:
Allowing Your Highly Sensitive Child to Shine with Unschooling by Anne Ohman: http://www.livingjoyfully.ca/anneo/Highly_Sensitive_Shine.htm
I Am What I Am by Anne Ohman:
Special Needs or Just Special by Mary Gold:
Doesn't Sound Like ADHD To Me: http://sandradodd.com/special/cheryl
Printable Sensory Activity List:
8 Online Stores to Purchase Sensory Friendly Clothing:
Neurotypical film (description from the PBS website listed below):
Neurotypical is a rare film among documentaries about autism. It relates the experiences of this neurological condition from the point of view of autistics themselves. Via the worlds of 4-year-old Violet, teenager Nicholas and middle-aged wife and mother Paula, along with provocative interviews with other autistics, the film recounts the challenges they face living among "normal" people--whom many of them call "neurotypicals."
"It Takes Two to Talk" - A Hanen program for parents
Special Needs Groups:
Homeschoolers/Unschoolers on the ASD Spectrum (This is a "closed" facebook group as of June 2013): https://www.facebook.com/groups/593962203957074/
She explained that the chart lists the development of common speech sounds (with broad age ranges) and then farther down the page is an explanation of how dental development can broaden those ranges even further.
- From Radical Unschooling Info facebook group on May 23, 2013:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/303347574750/ and also alwaysunschooled yahoo group.
- Roya Dedeaux (Grew up being unschooled. California)
- Michelle Barone (California)
- Marji Zintz (Olivebridge, NY)
Those and additional therapists (including a speech therapist) are listed on Sandra's site: http://sandradodd.com/issues/therapy
Byron Katie http://www.thework.com/thework.asp